F4F: A Femme Skill Share
In a society that prioritizes, privileges, and lauds masculinity, while simultaneously constructing a counterpart that is highly regulatory and coercive, what does it mean to complicate and reject this relationship in self-identifying as femme? What does it mean to inscribe power into an aesthetic, into a political term of solidarity, into the nuances between “being too much” and “not being enough [in the right kinds of ways]”? Why is there power in a collection of femme-identified people ?
As a way of beginning to unravel the complex ways that we define our femme identities and relations to each other, F4F: A Femme Skill Share provides a space wherein femme becomes centralized and prioritized. F4F is a space for femme individuals to share their skills with each other—skills used for survival and skills used for our personal aesthetics and redefinition of selves and those skills in between.
As a space for rejecting the normative scripts of an assumed masculine agency, we define “skill” as any activity or thought or way of doing/being that has been useful to us in some capacity. We invite femmes to share not only tangible skills (e.g. nail painting, hair wrapping, makeup tips, accessorizing, etc), but poems, manifestos, short stories, anecdotes, guides to success, ways to navigate spaces, affirmations, thought endeavors—anything tied to our existences as femme folx.
This space exists as a way of bridging our communities for a night of sharing and bonding. Food and goodie bags will be provided.
Please share some basic info about your skill so we can better gauge timing and interest: https://docs.google.com/a/columbia.edu/forms/d/1PpwLIz8mseab9T6wZ1Ci4c4HgIRAFjNOZat-otwNl44/viewform
- This event is a FEMME ONLY SPACE, meaning that only femme-identified folx should be in the space. All self-identified femmes are welcome in the space and welcome to participate in whatever capacity they’d like.
- This event is also divided into two distinct sections:
The first 50 minutes are explicitly reserved for femmes of color to share their skills, knowledges, voices, and presences with other femmes of color. This space is CLOSED to white femmes. Femmes of color should feel safe(r) and free(r) to present any skills, poems, manifestos, et cetera that relates specifically to their cultural and racial identities in a space that acknowledges the ways in which the term “femme” has often been used in order to define our bodies in relation to more acceptable hegemonic notions of “femme” as well as our bodies having been made into political tools.
The last hour will be an open space for all participants to share. People are encouraged to be in Q House by 6:50 for prepping the larger skill share with all of our lovely femmes.
- Accessibility: please feel free to contact Q House with any concerns about accessibility to the spaces. There is a short flight of stairs (~6 steps) into Q House, and a flight down into the basement (~15 steps).
poster cred: eljotitodeperris
~*~lookin’ out for columbia folks and mutuals in the area~*~
I hate it when moderate politicians try to steer discussions away from talking about ‘identity politics’ bc they want to ‘focus on the issues’…
like I’m pretty sure one of those issues is that the popular political landscape only includes the same old cis white guy politicians jerking off about tax policy all day long while talking about ‘hardworking Americans’
As the Crow Flies was nominated for an Eisner!!
I’ve been having trouble putting words together about this. I’m so happy people read this odd, slow-building little comic of mine — and so grateful I live in a time when it’s even possible to make odd, slow-building comics and post them online for people to read. This is a pretty cool time to be a cartoonist.
Thanks so much for your support, everybody! And go check out the full list!
Congrats! The comic deserves it!
The Secret Life of Walter Mitty (USA, 2013)
hey y’all, please consider participating anonymously or otherwise. there are so many complex reasons victims/survivors do not report, and i want to help create space for us to feel empowered in sharing them.
you can submit anonymously here (anon asks are on) or using your twitter handle through the hashtag <3
i won’t be posting anything submitted via tumblr in the hashtag until monday 4/14 at 7pm, but you’re welcome to begin submitting now. i’ve already seen a few that are breaking my heart. you are all powerful beyond measure.
TRIGGER WARNING (if you’re in the head space to read this, I recommend it)